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How To Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings

Author: Sarah Cooper | Publisher: Andrews McMeel

Ambitious women are so scary. In this fast-paced business world, female leaders need to make sure they’re not perceived as pushy, aggressive, or competent. In How to Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings, Sarah Cooper, author of the bestselling 100 Tricks to Appear Smart in Meetings, illustrates how women can achieve their dreams, succeed in their careers, and become leaders, without harming the fragile male ego.

Chapters include, among others, “9 Non-threatening Leadership Strategies for Women,” “How to Ace Your Job Interview Without Over-acing It,” and “Choose Your Own Adventure: Do You Want to Be Likable or Successful?” It even includes several pages to doodle on while men finish what they’re saying. Each chapter also features an exercise with a set of “inaction items” designed to challenge women to be less challenging.

And, when all else fails, a set of wearable mustaches is included to allow women to seem more man-like. This will cancel out any need to change their leadership style. In fact, it may even lead to a quick promotion!

How to be Successful is laugh-out-loud funny. Sarcastic, ridculously on point, and tongue in cheek. I absolutely adored it. And, if you’re a woman, I guarantee you’ll recognise a man you know in there somewhere… Which is probably why I shouldn’t have read it at my desk at work… Super hard to explain to your boss what I was laughing at – cue awkward silence…

I could use this review to talk about sexism in the workplace. I’m not going to, because, unless you’re part of the problem, you already know it happens. So, let’s just talk about the book, ok?

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There’s really nothing I didn’t like about this book. It’s a wonderful example of reductio ad absurdum. I thought the colourful layout and graphics were punchy and had a certain zing. The humour straddled the line between non-offensive, while still being brutally honest, and had a thoughtful quality which made it all the funnier. This is usually a serious subject, but I think there’s something to be said for mocking these outdated and discriminatory attitudes; no-one wants to look ridiculous, so it might actually make some people think.


My favourite part was the badges at the end. Honestly, I sort of wish I could give those out… Check them out for sure.

It’s a quick ditty of a read, which will definitely make you laugh, and one for sure you’ll recommend. The only thing I wanted? A checklist at the end, so men who were offended by this book could decide if that was because they did any of these things themselves. I would have had a hard time not emailing to the my own boss… Absolutely brilliant, I highly recommend it.

Rating: 4/5


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2 thoughts on “How To Be Successful Without Hurting Men’s Feelings”

  1. This sounds funny, but maybe more just sarcastic than substantial in the way it critiques our current culture, so I’m not sure if I want to read it or not. I have a hard time passing up anything feminism, so I may pick it up anyway. Definitely not one I’d read at work, haha.

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  2. Oh for sure, it’s a parody or sarcastic rather than something substantial. Which is not to say that there isn’t truth in it… and I think making offensive views seem ridiculous can be very powerful… I have a hard time passing up anything with feminist themes as well! And this was definitely funny. Let me know what you thought if you do pick it up!


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